Humans, like any other animals, can be sexually aroused. An almost infinite
number of reasons can stimulate the body into a copulating mode. An erect
penis or a swollen vagina is a sign of need. It can be as normal as thirst
or hunger that transform into a desire to drink or eat. But, apart from
these carnal instincts, what is the next step in the build up of these
emotions that differentiates man from beast? To what extent can a human
being control them, and in the case of sex, conform to what is considered
normal behaviour? A cold analytical approach may reveal some interesting
A dictionary is a book that contains and describes the meaning of all
or most words used in a language. It includes the legal definition of
every aspect of life and the universe represented in dialogue and print.
It is the result of generations of scholars and intellects the world over,
that have contributed to civilisation by logging the changes of mans
vocabulary as he developed through the ages. It is our non-religious bible
of information. Exploring the relevant areas contained in one of these
literary tools will be a good start to help identify and interpret the
normal sexual behaviour between human beings.
Normal. Adjective: according to what is expected, usual, or average.
Of a person: developing in the expected way; without any disorder in mind
or body. This is typical, in this case a 1970s version, of
an English dictionarys description of the word normal.
If we continue our investigation, turn the pages of the same book and
under s look up the word sexual intercourse, we
find the following standard definition:
Sexual intercourse: The bodily act between two animals or people
in which the male sex organ enters the female.
Logical conclusion therefore is that in the seventies it would be normal
for two persons, one male and one female, to engage, on average, in sexual
intercourse as described above. Pretty simple and straightforward really,
but let us take things one step further. What about other related words
such as adultery, fornication, homosexual, lesbian, sodomy, fellatio,
cunnilingus, masturbation? How do they fit into the equation? They are
all legally described in the dictionary. Are they accepted as normal?
|Adultery and fornication go hand in hand. The dictionary
clearly defines them as having sexual intercourse, again between
male and female, but in this case it is when one or both parties
are either unmarried or not married to each other. We all know that
this is in some cases, ethically and religiously unacceptable but
quite normal amongst consenting adults.
How about homosexual and lesbian? Thirty years ago, although society turned
a blind eye to this kind of relationship, lexicographers were hard at
work. The period dictionary therefore describes the sexual relationship
between humans of the same sex as an attraction. It doesnt
say what they do. Very quaint. But when we continue to look up those other
words describing sexual acts other than intercourse, a vivid picture can
be drawn of what else went on, even in seventies society.
Fellatio is the opposite of cunnilingus. Masturbation is the most sedate,
as it merely states the stimulation of the sex organ by handling or rubbing.
Mentioning sodomy is out of the question. In all cases, the male sexual
organ has nothing to do with the female organ. They dont go anywhere
near each other. In these cases, the description implies that other parts
of the human body are involved. One would assume therefore that lips,
mouths, tongues, hands and even feet are involved in sexual activity.
Under normal circumstances, as defined in our book, these
other members of the body have nothing to do with sex. We use our feet
to walk, run, kick and climb and our hands to lift, hold, grip and a multitude
of other physical activities. Our mouth is used to eat, drink, talk and
breathe, whilst our tongue is a jack-of-all trades that compliments the
mouth. These are our bodys work tools. Now enter the missing links:
words like caress, lick, stroke and, yes, love!
Alas! A broader dimension to human relations as well as sex, is introduced
by examining the meaning of these words. According to the description,
we convey our feelings towards our fellow humans by means of the physical
use of our body tools. We may caress or stroke each other to comfort or
appease. For example, if we are upset, tired or ill. But again, we may
also stroke, lick or caress a penis or vagina as sexual stimulation and
sum it all up as an act of love. All is included and acceptable according
to the dictionary.
Finally, a mention on climax and orgasm. Climax, a multiple meaning word,
is also described as the best part of sex. Orgasm goes straight to the
point as the highest point of sexual pleasure. So there you
have it. Sexual behaviour in all its known variations as described
by a dictionary, albeit in bits and pieces.
But, again, what is normal sexual behaviour? So far, exploring the English
book of words has thrown light on the variations of the act. It has also
touched briefly on the human feelings and reactions involved. But it does
not clarify what really can be considered as normal. Why do we indulge
in sex anyway?
The best possible explanation is the scientific one. We are sexually aroused
and have intercourse to reproduce and further the continuation of the
human race. But we are also intelligent animals with an analytical brain.
Therefore, we are able to conjure up all sorts of variations to the same
theme and turn a completely filthy physical act of procreation into a
pleasurable sport, diversion or entertainment. It really doesnt
matter whether it is considered normal or not. As long as humans dont
hurt each other or go against the law, long live normal sexual behaviour,
whatever it may be!
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