HOW SMALL IS YOUR TALK?
After twelve years,
my experiences of teaching English around Finland have been many and varied.
One thing has, however, remained constant, the desire of my students to
learn the so-called art of small talk. No matter where in
Finland I have been, or to whom I have been speaking, whether engineer
or artist, foreman or manager, the one area of language students always
ask to be included in their lessons is small talk. The phrase I
want to small talk is almost a cliché. The question I invariably
ask in reply, How small would you like your talk to be? falls
on uncomprehending ears. To the student, the request is asked in all earnestness.
After all, surely once one has mastered this most allusive of all language
functions one has mastered the whole of the English language? Perhaps,
perhaps not. So what exactly is small talk?
Small talk is the ability to hold a conversation with someone for an undefined
length of time without actually talking about anything of any consequence.
One of the most common subjects for small talk is of course the weather.
Such a conversation might well start and progress like this:
Fine day today.
Mmm. I heard there might be some rain this afternoon.
Typical, just when you think Spring might be around the corner.
I know. Still, you never can trust those weather forecasters.
Quite right. I remember just last week
And so it goes on. A conversation about the weather can be as long or
as short as the day itself. The topic never seems to lose its fascination
for English people and is certainly a good stand by topic should all else
fail. But there is surely more to small talk than a simple discussion
about the weather? Of course there is, and then again there isnt.
Small talk is simply that, talk about small things of little or no consequence
to the speakers. The subject could be one of a thousand or more. There
are no real secrets to it, just the simple fact that it is a conversation
between two or more people about nothing in particular. People all over
the world engage in it from Hong Kong to Helsinki on a daily basis. So
what do I teach my students when they tell me they want to small
talk? Many things, but most importantly of all, I begin to help
them to just talk.
It would seem that for many, simply gaining the confidence to open their
mouths is an insurmountable hurdle. After years of having the need for
total grammatical accuracy drummed into them they are too afraid to say
anything for fear of being incorrect. What absolute rubbish! I will be
the first to admit that my Finnish leaves a lot to be desired, especially
in terms of grammatical accuracy. And yet every day I manage in a wide
variety of situations, from getting a haircut to having my car serviced.
I have a very good hairdresser and an excellent mechanic. The one thing
they have in common is an inability to speak English, yet I am happy with
the way my hair looks and my car is in perfect mechanical condition. Why?
Because I use my wide vocabulary and rudimentary knowledge of grammar
to communicate, and, surprise surprise, it works! Thankfully the way in
which languages are taught in schools has changed considerably compared
to twenty years ago. Today young people in Finland do not have the same
fear of making a mistake as those who have gone before them. Grammar is
of course still important but it should not be allowed to get in the way
of a persons ability or willingness to try to communicate.
Small talk is in reality a figment of our collective imagination.
It does not exist as a language function as such but serves purely as
a means of getting to know someone or of passing time until a more interesting
topic for conversation presents itself. There is no secret to small talk
except one; forget about accuracy, open your mouth and begin to speak.
One thing is certain though; if you are afraid to do even that, then your
talk will be very small indeed!
© Ian Bowie 2001
Ian Bowie email@example.com
Ian earns his living from a combination of teaching English and writing.
In addition to a bi-weekly newspaper column he writes content for company
websites, customer newsletters and press releases. He has just finished
his first book, a work of non-fiction called 'Done Deal '. It is primarily
a guide to sales and business etiquette in the UK. Once illustrated
I hope publish the book and also develop a couple of one and two
day training seminars based on the content. I'm currently looking for
a suitable illustrator I can afford
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