Japan Diary - A Personal View
MAND IN JAPAN
The Last essay from our girl in Japan
just come from the station and encountered a pretty bizarre experience.
Trains in Japan have set up `women only` carriages. This is designed
to prevent all the unwanted attention given by dirty old businessmen
which has been a major problem in Japan. Special designated carriages
displaying bright pink signs are crammed full with women - any
western mans wildest fantasy Im sure! Train guards
carrying loudspeaker phones and giant pink fluffy sandwich boards
are screaming out `women only` in Japanese. Its almost like
the Japanese equivalent of the 'Titanic' when women and children
are bustled into life boats.
If you look ever
so carefully into the carriages, however, you might just be able to
see the odd Japanese guy scattered around though they could easily be
mistaken for women as Japanese men are the most girly looking men I`ve
come across since George Michael in his pre `Wham` days.
This month, as promised, its boytalk. By now, If you've read any of
my previous articles then you should have a pretty good idea of what
the girls in Japan are like i.e. teeny tiny bodies, Lois Vuitton handbags,
outrageously high heeled shoes and a make up bag wherever they trot.
But what about the guys? Actually, they`re pretty much the same as the
girls, without the high heeled shoes of course! I`ll get back to you
about the make up...
Guys in Japan, especially around the early 20`s are certainly not like
the Brits, who`s idea of a perfect weekend is skulling pints of lagar
in front of the footie, whilst havin a laugh with `Codsie` and `Wilko`
down the `Dog n Duck`. Japanese lads, on the other hand, prefer to go
Admittedly nearly every shopping excursion theres a girlfriend
in tow but guys are usually more than happy to carry the Lois Vuitton
handbag theyve probably got one of their very own - before
popping into a nearby salon to get their nails and roots done.
Image is a big thing in Japan and with guys dressed in floral paisley
shirts, pastel pink pants and at the same time sporting Chesney Hawkes/
Bon Jovi style `bouffants`, they certainly give plenty to gawp at.
However, appearances can be deceptive as underneath the George Michael
pre-Wham exterior lies an empty vacuum of life. These blokes are incredibly
shy. In fact, the only time they will ever ever ever talk to a scary
'foreigner' is after theyve consumed 2 and a half pints of weak
lager and are screaming out backstreet boys tracks in the local karaoke
"Herro! ...rery nice to meet you...this is Takeshi...I am office
worker...I sorry...I drinking too much...you beauuuutiful...where you
live?...England!...ahhh...soooooo...Beckham...he is handsome man!...please...I
marry you?...Oh dear...I drink...please excuse I...I...I......bleeeeeeuuuuggggghhhhhaaaarrggghhhh!!!"
And with that - poor Takeshi's 2 and a half pints of lager are now out
all over the floor - bless!
Sad thing is that the next day, whist recovering from a chronic hangover
- Takeshi will suddenly remember he spoke to a foreigner before emptying
the contents of his stomach - he`ll be soooo mortally embarrassed that
the poor guy will never go karaoking again incase he gets spotted! One
less backstreet boy is probably a good thing though! Hurrah!!!
Ok, so not everyone in Japan is like Takeshi, infact - some don`t even
have a life. Business men in Japan spend every hour of every day working..or..drinking
saki (rice wine - so potent it burns your clothes!) Leaving the house
at 6.00am and not returning till gone midnight these folk never see
their family, work every weekend and their favourite hobby is sleeping...or
(How to spot a drunk businessmen - easy - their once neatly presented
tie becomes tied around their heads Karate Kid styley and are usually
playing 'Kneesies' with their business partners!!)
Whilst University lads have a fairly cruisey time shopping, Karaoke,
eating out and watching movies etc, there comes a turning point where
everything changes. Once they hit a certain age, usually 25ish, and
put on a suit for the first time, their whole attitude to life changes.
Suddenly they live to work. Money becomes a big obsession and wearing
a suit is a full time occupation. After a certain point, husbands no
longer speak to their wives which is the saddest thing Ive discovered
and is also probably why divorces are extremely rare in Japan - husbands
are never around to cause any arguments or even talk!
As businessmen get older, their teeth start to rot, probably due to
the lack of fluoride in the water, and their breath stinks of that foul
cigarette smell you get from smoking too much. They quite openly pick
their nose, spit, gob, fart and perform something you would consider
an extremely private and intimate pleasure to oneself blatantly outside
in the broad daylight and infront of everyone for all to see. Indecent
ain't the word! Lock up and throw away the key maybe closer. I won't
go any further but hopefully you should be able to understand what I
mean. If not - one last hint - comic book! yeeeuuuuuuuuukkkkkkkkkkk!
Finally, old men - by the time they get to 60 - teeth have now fallen
out, the smell of urine is ever present and the shrinking process begun.
Here in Japan there is a big homeless problem with over 10,000 homeless
in one city, Osaka, alone. Whats different here in Japan compared
to other countries with the same suituation though is that 90% of the
homeless are old men.
When the big earthquake hit Kobe just over ten years ago a lot
of men lost their businesses, went bankrupt and consequently turned
a little loopy. Now they happily roam the streets constructing magnificent
palatial style houses out of cardboard and old futons, All this whilst,
at the same time, sporting a pair of designer Nike sneakers!
But not all Japanese men are like the ones I`ve described today. You
get some pretty nice business men. The uni students are sweet, but sweet
and some of the Japanese mid twenties guys are so laid back and lovely.
You often wonder why they are living in Japan especially when they complain
that Japanese women are far too thin - Oh my God!! MARRY ME!!!! NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
That's all for today and also for quite a while. In fact this is probably
gonna be one of the last newsletters I write as I'm heading off to OZ
for a month over Christmas and then it's back to the UK in January .
Will probably send you the last e-mail then so if theres anything
you desperately want to know about Japan or anywhere you want me to
visit and report back whilst I`m here - please email me now - before
its too late and the Hello Kitty dream is over. Sayonara - I`m off to
catch the last `Women Only` carriage train ride home!!
© Mandy Mand 2003
A readers letter June 2006:
I've found this article quite offensive to not only Japanese men but
also all the Japanese people. I would like to ask you to remove it from
your site, otherwise I'll take a appropriate action so it can be legally
removed. This article is nothing but degrading Japanese men by falsely
accusing them of ""the most girly looking men." I'm sure that 99% of
Japanese men don't dress like the author claims.
This is untrue and totally untolerable. I don't know if the author personally
had a bad experience in Japan or not, but this article certainly presents
racial antagonisms toward Japanese men in general, and provokes us to
anger and to have hatred toward British people.
...cute little Japanese girls running around in high heeled shoes and
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Mandy Mand in Osaka
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