of Porn Addiction & Sexual Compulsive Addiction
addictions can tear apart many aspects of your being. Many would
say that it is healthy to masturbate or indulge in a little mind
fantasy so long as it doesnt hurt someone right? Wrong!
In many cases
those who have found themselves indulging in self pleasure with the
usage of fantasy, porn related viewing, or objectification, have more
often than not become affected by these desires
which can manifest itself later.
Desensitization is a common and highly ranked symptom of having a sexual
compulsive addiction. It takes away your ability to decipher fact from
fiction, reality vs fantasy. It also hinders your ability for a normal
relationship where you interact with others of the same sex, and opposite
sex; limiting your views and values you once had, interchanging them
to what now is considered acceptable by the porn industry.
Taking what is considered normal by the single life of self-pleasure
and intertwine this with a new relationship, your current or new job,
and see how it impacts on your ability to concentrate on your work or
relationship issues. Some have become affected by their continual need
to see, view, indulge in a near perfect environment of what the porn
industry has to offer, in a world of plastic surgery, and breast implants,
and a wonderful airbrush quality to enhance further perfection. Their
values and morals have now been affected by their need or subconcious
need to see or experience sexual implications in every aspect of life
and interaction they may encounter. They are on their way to becoming
dependant on objectifying a persons body or parts. Increasing
the need for more of this to continue onward for more extreme pleasure
and increasing yet again, their level of what is now attached to an
urge; combined with a desire for the untouchable viewing.
This leaves them with a outstandingly vulnerable state of lack of reality.
Engrossing oneself in a world of perfection, which in our world simply
does not exist can leaving people with relationship problems stemming
from their inability to understand emotions and proper feelings. Judging
what is right from wrong becomes problematic. Further hindering oneself
from a normal relationship where a normal person can never live up to
the perfect images you have placed in your mind. The perfect girl
The perfect guy. Neither exist, unless one accepts that the perfect
spouse is the one who loves you and accepts you without your being perfect
and all your faults that come along with your package! That IS the perfect
Addiction harms more than just the user, it corrupts their self-image,
their accountability as a trusting person in a relationship where hiding
secrets from a spouse about addiction is common. It affects their judgment
in person to person encounters. And it also harms family, job, spouse
and children. Just as the old saying goes what they dont
know wont hurt them this topic is proven to be dead wrong.
Those that do not know still suffer the MANY problems and issues that
addiction, ven if indirectly by those around you in their performance,
emotions, the way they deal with stress and anger.
What you dont tell us, we already know
.. We just did not
know the word for it until now.
© Laura A Morgan Jan 2004
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